IRRITATING !
Published on September 25, 2006 By KISIRU In Blogging
I have a problem with men who just keep sneaking glances at you and cannot gather enough courage to just say hello,or something,anything is better than those looks.Those looks are spooky.You are not sure what is going on in the man's head.Is he liking what he is seeing?does he want to tear my clothes off...or is he planning how he can follow me and grab me at some corner in the night as i make my way home or to wherever? or maybe i remind him of the girl who broke his heart...Well,here's what happened to me the other day

YOU LOOK AT ME,
SNEAKING GLANCES BEHIND HOODED EYES.
sAY WHATS ON YOUR MIND;
DONT HIDE BEHIND THOSE SUIBTLE GAZES,
LIKE A CHILD AFRAID OF THE WORLD.
SPEAK SIR,
I MIGHT CHOSE TO HEAR YOU RIGHT...

YOU SPEAK TO ME,
SLOWLY PULLING ME INTO YOUR CONVERSATION.
I MARVEL AT THE EASE IN YOUR VOICE-
IT SEEMS TO SUGGEST
THAT YOU HAVE KNOWN ME FOR SOMETIME,
YET I KNOW FOR SURE THAT WE ARE
QUITE THE PERFECT STRANGERS!

Comments
on Sep 25, 2006
I'd say look at it statistically. They say men have a sexual thought every 7 to ten seconds. If your between a 7 and a 10, I'm 99.9% certain they may just be haveing one of those sexual thoughts.

Oh, and from this males perspective, some sights are worth more than one thought....errr...I mean look
on Sep 25, 2006
I guess Indian men sneak a lot at women because of the way we men have been brought up in childhood....We don't interact with women enough to know them better.....we men are so insecure of women....in fact we are on guard when we interact with them....women on the other hand expect a lot from Indian men.
We men need to discard our hangups and change our retationships with women...

lionel david@

savewateronearth.joeuser.com
on Sep 25, 2006

I have a problem with men who just keep sneaking glances at you and cannot gather enough courage to just say hello,or something,anything is better than those looks.


That is really not our fault. The entire system is designed for men to take the open risk while allowing women to shoot down men's egos. We are simply afraid.



Those looks are spooky.You are not sure what is going on in the man's head.


You are not? I can assure you that you probably can be. I can give you a hint: it's not much, and it's not complicated.



Is he liking what he is seeing?


If he looks, yes.



does he want to tear my clothes off...


No, although he probably has his imagination. (I am just being honest here!)



or is he planning how he can follow me and grab me at some corner in the night as i make my way home or to wherever?


That is Unlikely.



or maybe i remind him of the girl who broke his heart...


In my experience such reminding, even if it happens, has little influence on the man. It will never count against you, I am sure.


Perhaps you should take those glances as the compliment they almost certainly are. If he looks at you but doesn't say hello, it's not to irritate you, it's merely because he is frightened (or rather because he cannot see how the benefits of talking to you could outway the risk of being shot down immediately).

I believe the best thing for a girl to do is walk towards the guy and happily greet him and introduce herself. He won't think that you are forward or weird, he will just think that you are friendly. After that, you can ignore him again. But I can assure you that he will now say hello rather than just look, what with the friendly girl status having been established.

Does this help?
on Sep 25, 2006

Or at least meet his gaze and smile appreciatively.


Very good. She knows!

on Sep 25, 2006

oh the joy of being young and having your heart flutter!

What you are describing is all part of the excitement and enjoyment.




on Sep 25, 2006
We are simply afraid.


Speak for yourself. I haven't met the woman yet (or man for that matter) that I'm afraid of speaking to.
on Sep 25, 2006
could be the man sneaking those glances at you is marries or is in a relationship... none of those keep me from looking. I appreciate the female form and will continue to look till I die.
Colleen knows this and has no problem with this as she knows where I will have my ass planted at bedtime.
on Sep 25, 2006
could be the man sneaking those glances at you is marries or is in a relationship... none of those keep me from looking. I appreciate the female form and will continue to look till I die.
Colleen knows this and has no problem with this as she knows where I will have my ass planted at bedtime.


You made me smile at this Elie! Your ass firmly planted in bed!hehe
on Sep 25, 2006
(Citizen)foreverserenitySeptember 25, 2006 14:12:06


could be the man sneaking those glances at you is marries or is in a relationship... none of those keep me from looking. I appreciate the female form and will continue to look till I die.
Colleen knows this and has no problem with this as she knows where I will have my ass planted at bedtime.


You made me smile at this Elie! Your ass firmly planted in bed!hehe


sometimes the truth of things are funny. glad you got a laugh out of this.
on Sep 27, 2006

Speak for yourself. I haven't met the woman yet (or man for that matter) that I'm afraid of speaking to.


I am sorry to hear that.

on Sep 27, 2006

I agree, it can be a bit scary at times.
I have noticed there are different ways men gaze at women. it can be appreciation, lust or the dirty looks, which are quite alarming.
A lot of them are plain squints, so you never know if the hungry stare is directed at you or the cream doughnut next to you.

I think there is nothing wrong if a man is generally checking you out.Its quite harmless.(such an ego boost, isnt it?)  , but its true, sometimes it can be extremely uncomfortable.
on Sep 27, 2006
I am sorry to hear that.


Really? And why is that? You live in fear of the opposite sex because you're afraid of getting your little ego bruised and I don't. I feel sorry for you. I wonder how many wonderful people you have not met due to your fear.
on Sep 27, 2006

Really? And why is that?


I guess that you will have no problems with inventing enough answers.



You live in fear of the opposite sex because you're afraid of getting your little ego bruised and I don't.


That's a good one. You seem to need a quick answer to this.



I feel sorry for you. I wonder how many wonderful people you have not met due to your fear.


If you haven't met that woman that you were afraid to talk to, it might just be that you haven't met the most wonderful person you can meet yet. That's all.

Whatever made you think that insulting me would show that you are less afraid than I? Your ego is probably bigger than mine, all right.

Wow.